A father attends his first parent-teacher association meeting after years of leaving such things to his wife, finding himself the only man in a room of thirty parents, his presence drawing surprised glances and comments about how nice it is to see a father involved, the gendered assumptions about who participates in school governance revealing themselves through reactions that would not occur if another mother had walked in, his experience illuminating how leadership in spaces that shape children's education remains structured by expectations about who belongs in those spaces.